STOP TWISTING MY ARM!

Quit Twisting My Arm!

Control issues. We seem to all have them in one way or the other. It seems that control will actually push away from you what you most desire. Just want it bad enough until it is gone forever. Force equals resistance. Resistance robs life of joy and receiving.

We like life to go according to the plans we have made. We act out scenes in our mind and replay stories over and over to rehearse them or to suffer them out again and again. Why?

Control. When someone does not show up for us in the way we need or want we try to change them, label them, tell them to “f” off or other ways to gain control.

Control is an illusion. Luck has a better chance. When you get behind the wheel of your vehicle and drive you can manage yourself and with luck you get to your destination unharmed. I drove down the freeway the other day and a dumpster truck carrying rocks that by law should have been covered wasn’t. Gravel sprayed out all over the cars driving between the lines, going the speed limit, and generally keeping all the safety rules and yet one dump truck without respect to others just sprayed all of us with gravel.

Letting go of control is difficult. If you can twist someone's arm maybe you can guilt them into the behavior you desire. It won’t last however because change comes from within. Twisting someone's arm will always backfire.

Knowing what you want and what works for you is the key. It is not selfish to know yourself and to allow others to show up for you as they can. When you live within your own boundaries no one can twist your arm. When you have standards you won’t allow others to treat you like a doormat. When you lead with your own directives you will be able to let go of others and also keep their grip off of you.

Love never forces and it does not twist your arm. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 says it clearly.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails.

Just for today require yourself to know what you need to ask for and ask for it. Also, know what you have to give to others, then give it. If they need what you can’t give then trust your limits and be honest. Resentment is payment for not being honest.

Just for today do not twist the arm of another to please you. If they do not choose to give to you in a way that is loving then it is better to go without and get clear on what works for you and seek for that.

Just for today have boundaries and do not let others twist your arm either and compel you to do things for that also is not love.

Just for today be loving to yourself and others and do so from a place of truth and honor.

Blessings,

Rainbow

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