Shame is Name of the Self Hate Game

Children come to this life instilled with ancestral traits. They are an archive of the past in their very cellular materials. Lessons and beliefs can be passed forward to the cells of a child. We are all connected. Being born however without the brain fully formed also is a type of ‘clean slate’ and what is written in the mind and heart of a child helps to formulate that child’s subconscious mind.

The work that unfolds in our lives as adults is to heal old wounds and create new direction for our inner world and how it affects our outer world. The conditioning of children all too often involves shame. It is often unskilled parents that simply don’t have a lot of knowledge to pull from that deal with children in punitive and shaming ways.

When a child is shamed it tends to stick.

To get unstuck means to heal the shame and redefine for yourself the story of your life. I believe correction can be given to children as instruction and that little children can be taught in creative and kind ways. No parent or caregiver is perfect but with effort there can be ways healthy ways taught to guide children instead of shaming them to control them.

Shame leads to self hatred. Self hatred then splits into many branches in the tree of life for the child who grows up and becomes the adult who is still living in self loathing and perfectionism.

Identify the feelings of shame and self hatred or not feeling good enough. Write your inner child a letter of truth and let that little kid off the hook of shame.

Example letter:

Dear Beautiful Inner Child,

You are precious to me. You are in my cells now and I send you love and positive thoughts. I love who you are and I will take care of you. There is nothing you have done that makes you a bad person. You are forgivable and you are lovable. We can grow together and I will help you. You don’t have to be self sufficient and never receive support. You don’t have to do everything ‘right’ and worry about constantly being punished so you need to always people please. As of today you are free to be you and to accept all that you are. We will heal the parts that hurt and we will remember how to play and laugh and be carefree.

I love you!

The Adult Self

Connect with the inner child and affirm that shame is not the name of the game any longer. You can heal and you can be lifted into new potential and feeling great.

I send love for your journey and say leave shame at the door as it is no longer welcome in your world.

Blessings,

Rainbow